Contrary to popular belief, a strong mind is not defined by the absence of fear, but the control of it.
When we think of the qualities of a good friend, we speak of loyalty, honesty and care. Someone who looks out for us. Then is fear not our best friend? It is fear that stops us from putting our hand in the fire, going down that dark alley, jumping off the cliff. Fear is the voice that alerts us when we are being lazy or procrastinating. It helps us to avoid and anticipate dangers. Especially with strong self-awareness and intuition, fear calls on players at the right time.
We all experience fear, it is a question of what we fear that changes, as well as how we respond to it. Fear should be expected in relation to goals, given that we should be aiming for a somewhat unreasonable challenge - something just out of reach. Therefore, we must harness the power of fear rather than letting it damage us. How do we gain the advantages without succumbing to the negatives?
* Discipline and control of fear - dealing with fear gives experience, and cumulative experience is what allows us to make the best decisions. Notice the feeling and face up to it all the same. Over time what is previously feared becomes less impactful.
* Logically reframe anxieties - change perspective on a given situation towards rational optimism (self-confidence defined by disciplined action). When we have a clear understanding of what needs to be done to perform well or win, destructive fear disappears.
* Motion relieves tension - fear gets the better of us when we sit still. If there is no action promoting success, fear of failure is inevitable. Spending a little less time in our thoughts versus working away at a related task is useful.
* Relaxation is necessary - we perform at our best when focused and engaged, but in that state of flow. A calm mind is a logical mind - aware of everything that is going on around, anticipation sharp. That only happens when we relax. An agitated mind will focus on its fears and not find the state of flow easily.
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